For those children who have a certain sense of security, they can often get over the anxiety of separation from their parents in time, shift their attention to new things and integrate into the group activities. Because they know that their parents are only leaving them for a while and will come back to pick them up later, so they don't have to feel too sad.
First, like to play with plush toys
Swedish psychologists conducted a fake monkey experiment in which a group of young monkeys were placed in a feeding box and given a "wire female" to nurse on one side and a warm, fuzzy "flannel female" on the other.
Through a month of observation, it was found that in addition to feeding, most of the time with the warm "flannel mother monkey" stay together. This suggests that humans and animals share a basic psychological need for warmth and love. In the same way, children who are insecure tend to be less loved, and they want warmth more.
As a result, these children prefer stuffed animals and various muppets to satisfy their inner desire for warmth and safety through playing with stuffed animals. In fact, this is also a psychological compensation mechanism. The soft feeling brought by plush toys compensates for their lack of inner security.
Two, like a small temper of children often lack a sense of security
Some children like to cry, yell and other ways to express their emotions, and compared to other children, their emotions are more unstable, in fact, this is a sign of insecurity. When the child's inner lack of enough security, will want the family to pay more attention to themselves, care about themselves, so through the way of temper, get the attention of people around.
They are not able to express their emotions in a reasonable way, difficult to tell the feelings in the heart, so they choose to cry. Therefore, as parents, when they find that their children often cry, do not rush to stop or deny them, should be tolerant, understanding attitude to guide the children patiently.
When you are willing to treat them with an inclusive attitude and communicate with them patiently, they will feel your love and build a sense of security.